Five Ways to be happy!

Too many people surf internet on how to be happy! Umm, okay, but why need this anyway. We all know so many things that makes us happy. No matter what you want, a car, money, love, pizza, job, friends, family, better new year plans, more pizzas, whatever it is, you know to get it, So go it!!
Being happy is a state of mind, a lifestyle, a choice, so be it. Still, if you need some in-detail approach to be happy, yeah I've got that for you.

#1 Unconditional Happiness! - Happiness is something that should always be unconditional! The major problem people are not happy these days is because their happiness depends on certain happenings in life. I'll be happy If,,,and so on. That's where we are wrong. Tomorrow you may not be able to get that thing or that person in your life, does that means you're always going to be this sad, NO! you will initially move on in your life. That regret or anger or whatever bad phase might end but that definitely killed many happy hours of your precious life. Life goes on, good or bad, but its you who needs to set up an attitude to be always happy and you will see the change for sure. They say if you can't stop what's happening, if it is not in your control, then accept it and stop worrying about it. 

#2 Take a Walk - The most effective way to stop every single, tiny, micro negative energy is to take a walk. Oh! but it goes like, Calm down, take a deep breathe and go take a walk. It's actually proven that trees, plants and leaves provides you that positive energy that you need. It's a good 10-15 minutes walk that calms you down when you need to, the most. So I say, when in doubt, anger, sadness, take a WALK. It refreshes you always. And even if you are okay, so what! ask mother nature for more positive vibes. 

#3 Watch Good Movies - I don't know if you've ever noticed this weird thing or not but next time when you feel sad, go watch some good comedy movies, they always help you to smile again. oh! even better, watch your favorite sitcom's blooper, they will definitely make you go crazy. I'm a huge friends show fan, that's why I either end up watching the whole season when I'm sad or may be just two three blooper, Ah! It makes my day! It helps you divert your mind from all the mess. 

#4 Eat sugary - This  is another way of explaining yourself that no matter how bad life goes, it's all gonna be okay. Sugar means positivity, that needs to hit you when you're sad and lonely. Well, have some chocolates, cookies, anything that's sugar coated. It actually makes you feel better. And then initially would help you take a good nap. Yes, naps works as well. 

#5 At Last, Face it - Well, at last, when nothing works out for you, you have to accept the fact that thing which is making you unhappy is in control. So you get up, change your life, because life doesn't comes with remote control. No matter how hard you need to work for it, you do it, because in the end it's only gonna make you satisfy and happy. 
So try all these options, I hope at least one of these would work for you, may be all of them. Actually I hope nobody needs to surf for ways to be happy in life, 
BE HAPPY ! BE KIND ! 
KEEP CALM AND WAIT FOR NEXT WAYS TO BE !!! :) 

What we all want to hear

I love how some people could be so motivating all the time. Their lives are so different from other, because they wanted it to be. They always knew how they want to live their life, manifest their thoughts and make things happen. Honestly, such people motivates me the most. They make me believe that no matter what situations you are going through in your life, you can always wake up and make it better. Because we are the creator of our own destiny. Sometimes, when you need the right type of motivation, you get it. But the bottom line that hits me the most when I see such successful people work their ass off. They don't believe in getting lucky, gem stones or whatever, they just believe in themselves the most. And this fascinates me, that the only thing you need to do, is to WORK!
  You want to earn money,stop whining and work hard, you want to loose weight, stop eating fatty and workout hard. Ultimately, you don't have any other choice, just keep working hard. There's no shortcuts, no magic at all. Its just you who needs to accept the fact that its only your hard work that can change your life.
Some people may capable of working hard, scared. Am i right? Will i ever get something in return, will i just be no one forever? what if it doesn't work out? Well, these questions will probably get you nowhere, trust me. When you start something new, no matter what, never think of what could go wrong and think of what could go right. Because lets be real, your worries are overlapping your strengths every time you doubt yourself. And even if you know that, you're still drowning into your questions. And never let anybody even make you doubt yourself. They don't know you as much as you know your inner self.
Well, obviously, human brain, can't stop thinking, but at least stop doubting yourself too much. Find something that inspires you the most, which could be anything, a movie, song, play, some place, may be a book, novel, documentary. You need to know what you are doing is right and then you accomplish your goals. Imagining yourself in million dollar is being spiritual but working day and night for it is being practical and that's what you need to do.
So, wake up, think what you want, figure what to you need to do with your life, start planning, make sure you work perfect to make that road map of where you want to be and then work work work on it all the time, till its done. And then sit back and rest, watch how fruitful your hard work turns in. 

Just let it go..

One of the most essential lessons of life you are ever gonna learn, let it go. Let go of what holds you back, what weighs you down, something that still makes your mind run badly. I have learnt it, to let go of what's not in my control and the funny part is 8 out of 10 things in my life are out of my control. When you awakes, you understand the importance of letting go, why it is given so much importance, it's impact on you. One of the hideous reasons for not letting go is grudges. They create bigger impact on you. Initially, it was really hard for me, how can i forget, what that particular person did to me, or my family, or my friend. There was no way I could let go of my emotions, which were anger, anxiety, stress, worrying or even sadness. But once you start to understand the process of keeping grudges and its horrible consequences, you start accepting the fact that yes, letting go is
important.
Start with little things in life, if you got late and missed the bus, it's okay, stop making it a big deal. Or maybe something like this, that makes you sad or a bit angry sometimes but start to let go of smaller things in life. You may not be able to do it every time, but at least try. Gradually you will make it happen. Changes takes time.

Close your eyes, take a deep breathe, open your eyes and write the problems you think you have, all of them, just pen down them. Now, analyse them carefully, how many of these problems that yo have wrote are actually in your control, or you can do something about it, or just completely finish them. Now, just do yourself a favor and burn this list, Oh! it works too, on some level of universe. But know at least you know how much of the circumstances that bothers you are actually in your control and not.
While you meditate, it's advisable to accept this process and practice it more daily. Just don't be harsh on yourself. Things will change, every minute you invested in that meditation practice will enhance your inner self on some level for sure.
 Love yourself, Let go of what's not in your control, be patient, be happy.
Om shanti

When you feel..Lost

We all feel lost sometimes, feel like not feeling anything, anymore. It happens to all of us, no matter how happy or sad our lives are, this feeling often takes place in us. I felt it too, just yesterday. When a person knows what he wants but doesn't have it, can obviously work to achieve it and it could be anything, materialistic or non-materialistic as well. But what about the time when you have no clue of what you really want for yourself. You get lost. Chances are, things in your life is going pretty well, but still this feeling kills you inside.
I don't have a correct answer to this problem, but I guess its okay to feel this way sometimes. They say its a beginning to something new. May be you were hiding some serious emotions inside you, just let them go, release them. They create chaos inside.
Some people mostly find themselves lost, well that means they are getting depressed. They need to figure out this as soon as possible. Remember, when you feel lost, just know that its a phase, deal with it and every thing will be fine, next morning. No, not your problems, they won't get vanished over night, but yes, this phase will get over very soon, just don' give up. And always talk to someone who understands you the most. Who can handle you in this situation. Sometimes, such person becomes your healer.
Nothing lasts forever, not even this lost phase, so why being so hard on yourself. It all depends on how awakened you are, that time, to understand your life and go with the flow. I know its not that easy either. People sometimes feel like crying. But that's good! Trust me, In such phase i cry, a lot and then feel relaxed. Those tears are our emotions that has to be passed out. Don't carry them with you all the time. You will feel that something is weighing you down, that's right, its those collective emotions, pains and sufferings to were feeling inside but wasn't puking out.
Just be calmed and relaxed, even if it is one of our hardest time going on, remember, nothing lasts forever, be strong. And if it's your good time going on, ask for more such time.
Be healthy, be strong, be positive.
Om shanti.

Law of Attraction - 2

"I have the power!", power to control anything and everything that happens around me, power to change my destiny and fate, power to make my life more beautiful and peaceful. In my last blog, I wrote about law of attraction and about its basic functioning. After a huge lapse of time I am starting to blog again. In last one month even when I was not blogging, I was getting constant notifications on my account, how people are liking my blogs, re-sharing them and commenting. Thank you so much for appreciating my job. It feels wonderful for being appreciated for your hard work.
When we talk about power, it means an effective energy, we all have it. In fact, this is the second thing a human being should be asking for, from that supreme power, after thanking for his life. Each human has its own type of energies and level of frequency to vibrate on. But, there is one thing that each of us needs the most, "Power". But it depends on us where we want to deviate our power. A negative mind, no matter how many times asks for a power, will always waste it in a negative way, same goes for a positive mind
Every human soul is a peaceful soul, as the time pass by, it starts emitting other emotions as well, learning from around. While meditating, a human soul should be concentrating on positivity, asking for constant rays of positive vibes from that supreme power. Try to ask for more power, because you need it every day. You are suppose to feel powerful and energized after meditating. And the more time you are giving into this process, the more you are enjoying it. It's not a duty, it's a lifestyle. 
The key is to believe in yourself. To believe that "yes, I am going to make things better for me." Second thoughts creates mess and thats what you need to get out of your mind. Don't wait for results to show up just on first day, although, you will see its results sooner or later.
Ask for power, feel it inside you, start emitting more good vibes, stop thinking on what could go wrong and start to believe in yourself, because deep sown inside you know what actually feels right, you just have to be patient and listen to your inner self more often and for that try to meditate more. it helps you to quiet the inner self and listen to that sound, that has all the answers. Om shanti.

Law of Attraction Part - 1

This is the phenomenon that you must have heard about the most, it's like the root cause of all the happening around you and with you. It used to amaze me a lot, the fact that there is some process that includes asking for something and then believing that you'll will get it and then there you go! you have it. I mean does that really sound something you could believe in a minute, without any second thoughts, and that too when it requires full concentration and belief in the law, because if you send the vibes of doubt with what you've asked for, it won't be able to work properly. Honestly, when I started to hear about these things, I never used to believe in this, I mean how can it be possible. Listening universe, me asking for something, wait patiently, believe in the process, keep sending good vibes and BAMMM!! some time later you have it. Seriously, those days of my life where I was very practical in my thoughts, I could see no way of understanding these things, it was totally strange for me.
It's a human nature, we tend to listen other's experience and try to concentrate on it, sometimes even imagine us in that situation too. The person who used to teach me all these things, he knew I'm rarely believing in any of it and also knew that all those things that he's being telling me are storing up all in my sub-conscious as well. May be I was start to become aware that time, but consciously I never agreed. He used to tell me his experiences in spirituality, how law of attraction changed his life. His family were very close to me, they used to tell their law of attraction events so much, that I think due to this spiritual connection with them I became so close to them also. Initially, it was fun listening to such stories but then, with the time passed by, I guess I started to connect with their stories, maybe I was suppose to. But it does not mean if I didn't believe in this process, makes it obsolete for me. It was still working, constantly, its just that I was not aware of it working before, but know because I was hearing so many same stories, if I saw that law of attraction worked on my life, being aware I understood everything, that is when I realize the true meaning of it. Then I started to share my experiences to them,
It started to fascinate me a lot, my belief in this process started to become more and more strong. Although, there was also a time when I was struggling through my thoughts, obviously, I was new member to this, I needed more time, patience, knowledge and positive support. And surprisingly, I used to get these things for constantly for three years of transformation into a spiritual being. The man who taught me all this, always used to tell me one thing, wherever you go, you will always find people like you, people who are vibrating on the frequency same as you, and if you found some one who is not like you that could have happened for two reasons, either you came to their life to change them and raise their level of energy or they came to yours to drag you down. Be so stable that nobody can ever harm your level and drag you down. That is what meditation is meant for.
What else you think people are suppose to do in a meditation, I created and asked for like thousand of things when I meditate, also did I mentioned being thankful to that supreme power and grateful universe was also one of things I do in the process of meditation. It's very important.
So Start from appreciating what you have, start to accept your life and also the fact that no one else but you are the one who creates your destiny. Start to ask for little things from universe, truly truly truly believe in the process, not even a single negative or doubting thought you should send to the universe. And if everything works out and you get what you've been asking for, Don't forget to thank universe for that. Ask for more love from that supreme power, trust me, that ocean is full of love. Try it, and not to succeed but to be awakened.
In the next blog I'll tell you how to practice of law of attraction while meditating.

Is that a Sign??

Honestly, this is the thing that fascinates me the most about spirituality. This phenomenon where universe talks to you, in its own way. It feels special when you realize that universe just gave you a sign, sometimes people around you don't understand the deep meaning of it though, but you experience it. Its only you who run into a sign and your inner self shouts,"oh its a sign", even if it seems normal to someone else. Signs are not complicated to understand, in fact, when you will get one, you'll just know anyway. Although my journey of spirituality started with some people who were already on a higher frequency than me, they used to tell their experience over signs, I used to get amazed by it, I thought it was some kind of magic. Though, it' appears as a magic, but its not really a magic.
That family who taught me spirituality, always used to see the signs that occurs in my life, even if I wasn't able to understand it. They used to guide me well, and lately, I started to analyse these things on my own, I started to feel as if I am understanding these things. I actually started to see the signs and also interpret them correctly. It was a great thing for me to do. I was standing at a point where I had no idea where I have to go, how am I going to start this journey and that day I was standing at a place where I saw myself growing, becoming a different person, understanding a completely different way living a life. Yes, I was starting to experience my gift.
Sign is something everybody believes in, almost. But not everybody is used to interpret it correctly. Till today, I get signs in various situations, and it used to freak me out a little bit at first, but now I am not just used to it but also very grateful. Grateful to this universe for sending me such signs, to guide me better.
That sensational dialogue from a movie you are watching, that songs that just showed up while you are shuffling through radio channels, someone said something that you were already thinking somewhere in your mind.God, it is one of the best feelings to run into a sign.
May be it has something to do with our sub-conscious level, may be our creation, that goes into the universe and come back as a sign, or may be not. May be when we decide to do something or, gets deep down attached to something, that connection gets so strong. Due to may be that connection we gets sign.
I love getting signs over different things. It makes me feel like a part of this universe. One has to leave his level of energy if he doesn't realize the arrivals of signs in his life. He needs to get onto that level of energy from where he could see things more clear. That's the purpose of life, if not in this life, may be next, but you have to start raising yourself. Awakening is essential. Questioning things, is the first step to have awakened mind. If their won't be any curiosity, their won't be any knowledge
So next time when you run into a sign, recall the past, try to analyse it. You should know the real purpose of the universe for sending you that sign.

Just Be Patient

Most of the time, when we pray, we tend to wish about something we want, ask for it on and on and on. We don't really know whether we need that thing or not, but we just want it no matter what. These prayers, are they really working, or its about something else?
May be it is not about asking for better job, more money, a new car, or something else. May be it is about asking for help, asking for guidance, now I can't say about everyone but I've seen most of the people creating the list of things they want and asking those things in their prayers. When I wasn't much awakened, and I used to ask for many things from god, like better marks in exams, some new dress I saw in the mall, or some other random thing that I thought I want but merely need. My parents used to do the same thing, and so I learnt to do the exact same thing as they did. This part of my life was unawakened, but I used to question about this somewhere in my conscious. And hence soon, spirituality gave answers to all my questions.
Basically there are three things you should say to god in your prayers, first, i'm thankful for everything and grateful to you, second, keep sending your positive vibes on me and provide me strength, to fight all the negative things that is been happening in my life, and third, I'm happy for whatever I have.
Now, I am in a practice of saying these lines in my prayer to god. I love the way my life is going, spirituality showed me the right path. I'm not saying my prayers are magically started to fulfill, its like I'm finally understanding what I'm really suppose to ask for in my life. The God, that supreme power, is the ocean of love not a wishing well. Ask for more positive vibes, love, strength, because that is what you actually need. All other materialistic wishes could be fulfilled if you work for it, if something is destined for you, it will happen, so why disturb that God so much. He loves you, just love him back.
Always remember one thing, if you asked for something and you haven't had it yet, then may be you should try trusting on him, and be patient, because chances are you will get something better than you wished for. Just be patient.
Take an example of a kid, who is playing with a jigsaw puzzle, while he is busy playing with it, the parents sitting right behind him watching their kid solving the puzzle, now let say the kid is having trouble fixing puzzle, he looks at his parents with a hope that they will help him with his problem, the parent do the exact same thing, they shows the kid the right way of fixing it, and he continues to play the puzzle. Now take this same example in a person's life, who is facing some kind of problem, he faces towards his parent and ask for help, his parent(The god) shows him the right path, now just like the kid it is that person's own decision to do, either what his God said, or to continue being tensed and not helping himself. That kid either do what his parents are telling him to do or don't trust them and continue being puzzled up. If one can understand the meaning of this example, can truely be enlightened.
It is important to believe in God, not just while asking for something, but even when you haven't had it yet. Trust him the most. Believe in his timings. Always. Just be patient.

Soul Connections

I bet you can totally relate yourself with this quote. A soul, to whom you can connect on every level. Now here what does "every level" means? It means a frequency on which someone can connect with you, as you both are vibrating on the same level of frequency, it is more easy to understand each other's feelings, emotions and mind. It's like a blessing to a soul. It could be anyone, your best friend, your spouse, your parent, sibling. for any other person, who is a little more closer to you than anyone else. But you know the best feeling in this world when you finally found this connection with your soulmate. It's not necessarily true that soulmates connect on every level, they might don't. Many people don't believe in soulmate stuff, but I believe that in this life, some one is out there for you, some one is who completely made for you, no matter how many bad relationships have you been in or that person, after wandering all the world, you both will meet, at the right time and at the right place.
 May be you both haven't met yet, may be this will take some time. May be you or him/her still need to be stayed away from you because you both required to meet some other souls before finally meeting each other.
Actually, its a great adventure if you understand it, the urge to meet that one soul, the search of that soul in everywhere, the struggle with others to understand what is it all about. Run into wrong people, then getting out of their lives, basically making so many stupid decisions, until that one ultimate soul comes into your lives. This soul will make you a better person, or make you see things in a different way, these connections you feel with them, gives you hints of something you never experienced of. You can laugh with them, be weird, share things that stayed with you for ever. And not necessarily they will be your spouse, they can be anyone. This soul whom connect with you on every level will always be your best partner in crime.
But, usually some people just ignore the fact that they have met their soulmates. Somewhere, on their conscious or sub conscious level of mind knew that this person is my soulmate only, but will never accept it. That is also because of the fact that their past relationship were not that pretty, they are now afraid to dive into the ocean of love again, little did they know, that ocean they dived into, before, was not the ocean of love, it was just some ocean, but not of love. There is a huge difference between falling for someone and falling for the idea of falling for someone, yes, the day people realize this difference they decide to break up the relation.
Although may be somewhere your soulmate is also busy in completing the jigsaw puzzle of his life, and they day you both will complete your jigsaws, will only then be able to meet each other. What one should know and accept is that, leave it on the timing, you are destined to meet that soul on a perfect time, so why so hurry, just live the moment you are in, right now, even if that means dating stupid beauty without brains or body with brains! Just go with the flow, you guys will meet anyway. Or if that soulmate is luckily your friend or any one else, then no matter what you'll find him/her too. Don't worry they are looking for you too.

Past calling, Don't answer!

Past is a nice place, isn't it. A place where you visit often, or maybe very frequently visits. Having a lot of reasons behind this visit, maybe one is lonely, having incredibly great memories, uses this visit as an escape from present situations in life or anything else. Basically, recalling a past is a very healthy activity if carefully understand. If you close your eyes, just for a minute and go back in time and think of a happy moment. Somewhere, you were happy, laughing, with your closed ones, having a great time. After a minute is over, when you'll open your eyes, you will see a big smile on your face. In many of the mediation process, people often try to think of a happy place or a soothing memory that makes their body goes calm and mind even calmer, they starts to receive the positive vibes from that memory. Now think for a minute what happens each time you think about your painful past and sufferings instead of the good memories. Yes, this is where awakened mind helps you to understand what damage control you really need to do for your life.
Not denying the fact that every person has his painful or suffered past, and its not easy for everyone to let it go that easily. But, spirituality isn't going to compel you on letting it go, it is going to make you understand how one little visit to your past painful memory is going to affect your present. Each individual is having his own capability of mind, some people understand these things and some people don't. But that doesn't mean that the one who doesn't understand or accept these things, are not going to be affected as well. If somebody hurt you in the past, and you can still feel that pain exactly the same, that means either it hasn't been too long or it was really that big deal, or may be the last reason, you hold on to that memory so tight, that you are still getting hurt. Sometimes, it's really not about the amount of pain somebody gave you, it's about you, how tight are you still holding on to that memory. It's a law, the tighter you hold on to that past pain, the more it's going to affect you. Because, one should understand that it's no more hurting you because of what the person did to you, now it's hurting you because you're holding on to it for way too long, and may be now it is a good time to let it go..
When past calls, don't answer, it has nothing new to say. Obviously, the one which has something new to say is the present. Live in that moment, Right now. People are suffering from so many chronic diseases because of this little thing, "they live in past". Living in past not just means they recalls it all the time, or flashbacks from past whenever you go to sleep or try to meditate. It's about the past regressions, anger, something stupid you did, or made a fool out of yourself, cannot get over someone, or how you used to behave in the past with other people. There are number of reasons why people cannot get out of their past. And that is when they feel that therapy treatments are the solution. They are not going to take the responsibility of their karmic accounts and destiny by themselves. They throw all their problems on some random therapists and think that they are going to resolve their issues, but meditation is so difficult, isn't it. What else are you suppose to do in the meditation? You are going to take the charge of your life and resolve your issues yourself. Meditation is the only process that helps you overcoming your past issues, pains and sufferings.
Going back to the same old painful place again and again is like drugs, you don't need them but you still want them. You think it keeps you alive, but the sad truth is its killing you. Past memories are good for once in a while visit, not always staying there, it weakens you the most. And that is why let it go is an important damage control procedure that should be done. Obviously, it is not easy, but its worth a wait and patience. No matter how much time will it take, but once you are over your past, you won't feel anything for that incident. Sometimes you let go of something and you don't even realize about it. It is what time healing is all about.
Take deep breathe, Don't overthink, Don't get attached to every situation so easily. Be happy, try to meditate everyday. You'll know the effects starts to happen, in a while. Take care of you, the soul, if you starts to take care of yourself, the aura, then you will start to become more of a healthy person. Read more good books, do good deed, have a good laugh. Everything works, if you want it work. Giving up won't do anything good to you ever. So, work on yourself more and more, even if you do something wrong, don't worry, accept your past, live in present and work on future. Nothing less.

Meditation Prcoess - Becoming quieter, listening more.

An amazing saying in the world of spirituality."The quieter you become, the more you can listen". In a simple language it's meaning is pretty clear that if I stay quiet, I'll be able to hear what others trying to say. Well, now understand this quote in the language of spirituality.Here, it is said to the soul to become quieter to listen more that is going within itself, to listen to other sound that it is not able to hear. Meditation is one of the most peaceful experience to not only to a human body but to also the soul tamed in it. People mostly feel a lot of burden in their lives, that duly affects their bodies as well, so that obviously concludes one major thing that the energies that we release to the outside world, in this universe, comes back to us, and affects us thousand times more.
 Basically, what happens is that the lining outside on our body, the aura, has some kind of energies, it can be surrounded by positive or negative energies, grudge patches or any such elements. So. if we sent out the good positive energies to the outside world, it will come back to us, but if we throw out our negative energies on someone or something, surely those negative energies after travelling in the universe, will come back to you, and as I mentioned earlier, it is going to affect you more. And one more funny thing that people don't really understand is that when you throw out the negative vibe, first it affects you, why? because it was built in you so first it is affecting you inside, then when you throw it out and it comes back, again guess who is affected, It YOU! And still it is so impractical, uncomfortable, fake and so uneasy to be positive for some people. Affecting yourself is easy, creating new grudge patches or hatred patches in your aura is natural thing, filling  your aura with no good today, is definitely going to affect you tomorrow, mostly afterlife, or when before death, when the whole life just in front of your eyes, try to make it worth watching.
That is the purpose of mediation, changing yourself, transformation of inner soul, taking control of your mind. When I first started meditating, I won't say it was too easy for me, It was not that easy to sit down quietly, trying not to think about anything, instantly killing the thoughts whenever one shows up, and that too for at least more than 10 minutes. No people. that's not true, you are wasting your time on something that will never happen. Firstly, don't be harsh on yourself. Just because your parents, your spouse or friends are compelling you, don't do it unless you really want to do it, otherwise there is no point to do it. It should be your own decision of doing such life changing things, not someone life. So first get mentally prepared. Next, there is no do's and don'ts on how to do meditation, just sit down, take a deep breathe, be quiet, close your eyes, and please let your thoughts come and go, you're not a pro! It's just your first time, take it easy, try 5-6 breathes.
Try this everyday, yes now this is what compulsory is, try to do it every day. Only then you'll be able to tell difference in yourself soon. Now, you may not able to see a lot of changes so early, but there are some symptoms that if showed up, you will be sure that some changes are occurring on some level. After a fight with some one, you realize you wasted your energies, that realization happened 2 days after the fight, slowly and slowly that realization starts to occur some hours later, may be just after the fight, or may be next time before starting the fight. Yes, this is the point where you starts to change, may be sometimes you fight again, that doesn't matter, it is normal though, you understand that due to some kind of pressure that was holding you up you couldn't help but release it anyway, though it was not a good way of releasing the anger, but you will get over it soon.
These changes takes time, for all those people who thinks when in anger, meditate, NO! Meditation is everyday process of little bit change that takes place. No matter if you see that change eventually or not, yet for every good deed you do it is going to come back thousand times. Meditation helps you to become calm, that means quieter soul, so that when it says something(intuitions) you could be able to hear it even more vividly. There are many reasons for a soul to become quieter, when a person starts to practice it, experience it, then only would understand it's importance.

I am Grateful

Deeply inhale the positive energies and exhale out all the negative energies, and calmly say, "I am grateful today". I bet if you just did it, you will be feeling calmness in your mind due to the inhaling exhaling process and also happy as you are feeling grateful today. So if it's that easy to do and really works so well, why we don't do it more often. May be because we are busy in our "practical life" so much that we forget to be thankful for what we have. This situation is also referred to as taking life for granted. Some people are bound to be ungrateful, not just to other people but also to that supreme power as well. Being a part of that supreme power, a person is so busy with his life that he forgets what is the purpose of his life. Well, today 8 out of 10 people don't really care to think this way, may be because their minds are not that opened up, the frequency on which they are vibrating is low, that makes them more practical in life. They don't feel it necessary to think about life spiritually. But, the only thing such people forget is that they are still a human being, and spiritual laws works for all of us the same. No matter how much we really understand these things, wheather we got the answers to our questions yet or not, or we accept these laws or not, the universe keeps on working. It does not need your permission to work for you, it works since forever, and will keep on working no matter what.
There is one question that arises from every human being's mind. Why concentrating on the positive is so hard and negative is so easy. See, it is a very easy concept once you understood the meaning deeply. What happens really is that our habits is one of the reasons that makes it easy or hard to concentrate on negative or positive respectively. But, because mostly people feels it is hard to be positive all time, then you don't even need to. Yes, practicing to feel gratitude, happy, thankful, loved and positive is a good sign of becoming a spiritual person, but constantly pushing yourself to be positive even when the situation isn't letting you, is going to hurt you anyway. Don't cover up your real emotions just because they are negative. If you decide to keep some negativity inside you, it is going to hurt you more and more, or it can eventually start to grow. Just don't hide your emotion under any circumstances, it is important to show it or let it go, but never keep it inside you.
When you start to appreciate your life, being grateful for life, things are slowly and steadily going to change. Remember, every good deed that you just did yesterday might haven't showed its positive results out yet, but, they will, for sure, if not today may be tomorrow. But when they do, you will know, and it's going to make you feel even grateful and happy then you are right now. It is my own experience, its been 5 years now, ever since I started to understand spirituality. And in last five years, I have not just leaned to be spiritual but also to practice it, experience it, and be grateful to it. But five years is a lot of time, when I initially started to understand these things, that time of transformation from someone unawakened to someone who started to explore new world of possibilities. Where you are the creator of your own destiny. Where I learnt things nobody ever taught me. One thing that I constantly did in last five years was to be grateful, if not to everything, so at least to this change that was occurring in my life, and then may be this grateful vibes pushed me on higher vibrations,
Some people do not settle for their life. Look he has a car, I don't., look he is rich, I'm not, I love his new big house, I live in a match box. People who are vibrating on some good level tries to look on a brighter side, even if they don't have such luxuries, they know they have other good things in there life. This attitude always changes life for good. People who practice it regularly, obviously creates a better aura for themselves. I have grown up seeing two different men. First man, my late grandfather and second man, my father. My grandfather was more of a kind hearted, down to earth person, he was satisfied with what he has in life. I lived 15 years of my life with him and I observed him a lot, but my spiritual journey started after his death, now in last five years I realized that he was an inbuilt spiritual person, no one ever taught him such things, and even after living a life of hardship, with people not so much like him, he managed to survive a positive life, and died in calmness. On the other hand I see my father, not so much like his father. My father may not be able to see the life like his father does, but, surely I do. I got the chance to look at life from a different prospective.
So start to be grateful for what you have in life, even if there is not much, list is really small, doesn't matter, unless you are really grateful for it. 

Unconditional Happiness!

In spirituality, one is always taught that happiness should be unconditional. Now, what does this mean. Why being unconditional? If this question arises to your mind as well, keep reading. Conditions to any situation brings a lot of bad vibes, for example,  you love your friend, you both hangout all the time, very close to each other, but one day you found out that he is also hanging out with another person and is looking happier than he is with you. That feeling you get of may be anger, sorrow, hatred, envy or whatever, is the basic meaning of conditional love. Now, in the case of unconditional love, you might face the same situation but the feeling changes, now you think it's okay if my friend has another good friend, look he is so happy, may be that another person is also nice. I should go try and talk to him as well.
But here is Unconditional happiness, which means I'll be happy no matter what. My happiness is not depending on the condition or happenings in my life. Because life is always full of ups and downs that I'm not even aware of, then why should my happiness be depended on it for no reason at all. It's funny how some people says, I'll be finally happy when I'll get this or that. Well, if you are also one of them, I must tell you, spirituality teaches us to wish for anything but never let your happiness depend on it. If I want money, I'll work for it, but it does not mean I'm not happy right now. I'm happy and I will be more happy in future but my happiness does not depends on my money.
We have tons of conditions today, even for a student, if a got an A+ I'll be so happy, if I cleared that exam, I'll be so relieved, I have to win that competition, It's my whole life. That kid doesn't even know the meaning of life yet, and certainly he thinks that winning some competition is the only purpose of  his life.
Start appreciating what you have, be grateful to your life. It brings immense happiness itself. Constantly begging for sympathy is a waste. Telling people about all the negativity thing that has been happening to you, creating negative life for yourself. Ignoring the good thing that just happened and constantly remembering that one time you got hurt by someone. NO! stop right there! It's a simple math if you carefully analyse the situation. If you keep on attracting positive circumstances, it will happen, for sure, and if you cannot stop reacting on negative happenings, then yes, you are attracting it to your life.
 That is the reason why some people are bound to say, Uh why this always happens with me, and you really can't do anything about it because its true, it always happens with them, they are not lying, but the reason behind this is when the first time it happened, they should have stopped giving it such strong energies. There energies were so strongly attached to that thing that it starts to happen all the time. The person didn't stop watering that seed of negativity. And hence the problem of why it always happens with me, continues.
Everyone has problems, being happy doesn't necessarily means it is going to finish your problems, but yes, when you start to feel happy, start to feel grateful and appreciate what you have, your strong positive vibes increase, that initially helps you overcome your problem, helps to give you better way of sorting things in life that you might have not realized before.
Start initially, try to ignore when something went wrong, start to complaint a little lesser, but don't be so harsh on yourself, give yourself sometime, you will learn to complain less day by day. It's a healthy process to do, but always need plenty of time to make a habit. And then when you'll feel less complaining, more enjoying, appreciating and grateful, you will be happier then you are right now.  

Introduction to new world

In this world, with millions of people, with each of them consist of their own individual conscious and subconscious level of mind, their own karma and own life purpose, it is obvious that every human being living on this planet has different level of frequency to vibrate on. Have you ever met someone just like you? Now don't judge the one around you, someone you just met out of nowhere, who was no one to you some time back and now you are so close with them. Yes, this is where frequency works. Either both of you are of exactly same frequency or he/she came to your life to pull you up or uplift your frequency to his/her level, or in some unfortunate cases, came to drag you down to his/her frequency. You must have heard it when you were a kid, school teachers use to separate a good student from his bad friend because he never let him concentrate on his studies, tries to make him a bad person like him. Well that sums up this situations perfectly well. That bad student was dragging down the good student down, like him. But you know, this was a very basic example of what i'm trying to explain, in life, sometimes, we often forget who is pulling us up or dragging us down.
One's life is full of people who means a lot, nothing, everything, some people are your mentors, some are your "makes-me-always-happy-friend" or some are people you just do not want to see ever. It makes you want to kill them, you might have already killed them in your head fifty times by now, but of course not in real life because lets face it, no matter how irritating they are, if you killed them, you'll be be behind the bars, and they are not worth it, right?
So, what could be the only possible thing to do by which their existence won't matter to you anymore. Well, may I suggest, forgive them truly, accept them the way they are and now the last step "move on' that means, let it go! most people are ready to try these steps but could not able to follow properly.Why? It's not that easy to forget what they did to me, Why should I forget everything, I'm not going to accept them, who are they to me? Its not that easy to move on, let go is hard, and these problems goes on and on and on..
Let me clear you just one thing that most of the people don't realize today. These three steps may be difficult to do, but it is all in your mind, that rigidness(negative vibe) isn't allowing you to do it, unless you give that rigidity a clear reason as to why are you doing this. It is very simple job to explain the negativity that "I the soul, Do not want to carry this problem(what ever problem or situation you are facing) on my shoulders anymore now, I'm tired of carrying it for so long and it is affecting me. that is why I want to let it go. And there you go! try to explain your negative rigid vibes this and who knows, they might understand and go away and in return you gets free from your rigidity against some issue.
People says its not easy, I say yes it is, all you really need is that will power, that also forcing you to read this blog today. If you found that will power, then you are half way there already. It is not a one shot thing, it will take time for sure, may be months, but if you never tried you might be stuck where you are right now.
Every blog here will always force you to awaken, even if you don't realize that, may be you do on your sub-conscious level. Always makes you question for a lot of things you never really cared for. This blog is for people who started their journey of awakening, or some people who wishes somewhere on their sub conscious level to start it. Share your experience with me. Every one have their own inspiring story.